Be Free with Authenticity
In a world dominated by social media, people’s opinions matter more than ever. Why do we care so much about what other people think? Why does someone else’s opinion matter more than our own? And, should it?
Authenticity is a word I have come to value. It’s about being who you are, always. It’s not changing your ideals based upon who you’re with. It’s about acceptance of who you are and what you believe. But in that acceptance, you also accept others exactly as they are – no judgment, no snide comments – just people trying to find their way.
Yet, being authentic is much harder than it looks. It’s about working on yourself first and letting go of the result. It’s about discovering who you really are. Why is this so difficult for most of us? It’s because we are usually our own worst critic. We use negative self-talk all the time. “I’m fat…My nose is crooked…I wish I had hair like Julia Roberts” (or Selena Gomez – I’m showing my age here). Yet, these thoughts lead to feelings of inadequacy and doubt with often crippling effects.
But, if we embraced ourselves with love it would make all the difference. Life isn’t about being the smartest or the prettiest. There will always be someone smarter or prettier than you. (Sorry to burst your bubble.) But, there will never be another you. You are the only person with your specific talents and skills on this planet. No one else can do what you can do. No one else is here for the same reason as you. But, you have to first love and accept who you are – even the parts you don’t like very much. Once you let go of the result, you are free to be yourself in every situation. And that is the most freeing thing of all. As a character in the movie, Adaptation, says, “You are what you love, not what loves you.”
So, try to be authentic this week. Choose love instead of judgment. Say something positive into the mirror rather than criticizing the usual flaw (or flaws). Love yourself and connect with who you are on the inside. No one else’s opinion matters. As Wayne Dyer always said, “What other people think of me is none of my business.” So, mind your own business and discover how free you feel!